The call to serve

AGMA isn’t sure I’ll be around to post after today.

I don’t mean to upset you, but I feel like I need to prepare you for the worst possible scenario.

Just in case.

No, I don’t have COVID or another illness that is about to take me out. Yet.

No, I haven’t decided to give up blogging. AGMA is one of my “touchpoints of sanity” in the totally insane world that is 2020.

No, I’m not going into exile to escape what is sure to be a very rough time in the US over the next 4 months. Although I’m sorely tempted.

Son#1 and DIL will be going away by themselves for a well deserved long weekend to celebrate their 10th wedding anniversary.

Soooooo – AGMA and Hubs will be babysitting our 3 young grandchildren (ages 5, 3 and 14 months) for 3 days and nights by ourselves.


(Did I just shout?)

Well, that’s not entirely true. My DIL has a lovely young lady come over during the day Monday through Friday to help her with the kiddos. The kids adore their nanny and she loves them so it’s really a great arrangement.

Super nanny will be around to help us on Thursday and Friday into the early evening. But we’re going to be solo at night and on Saturday and part of the day on Sunday.

Oh the humanity!

I’m not entirely sure I’ll survive.

Please don’t get me wrong… AGMA loves my 3 grandchildren dearly.

We sold our house, put most of our earthly possessions in storage, and moved over 700 miles away to be closer to them. During a global pandemic. And (of course) brought lots of toys with us.

And the 3 grandchildren I have now are it. There are no additions on the horizon nor will there be.

Zip. Nada, Zilch.

Son#2 is more than happy being a life long bachelor and having to only care for 2 cats.

Son#1, the kiddo’s father, saw to it, surgically, that there will be no additional rug rats added to the brood soon after #3 came along last year. If you catch my drift…

So these 3 precious children are it. They are the legacy that AGMA will be leaving to world when the sand runs out of my hour glass. My chance to achieve immortality of sorts. The future of my DNA.

Plus they are just a cute and adorable and personable as they can be.

I love them more than words can say.

But that doesn’t necessarily mean I’m looking forward to spending a whole weekend with them. Alone. I mean, seriously?

There are a number of reasons for this:

  1. AGMA isn’t as spritely as I used to be (which wasn’t all that great to start with!) I get tired (translation = exhausted) trying to keep up with them.
  2. Hubs has a neurological condition that impairs his balance and mobility so this means that I will be doing all the “stair running” (they have 3 floors) and carrying of anybody or anything that may need carrying.
  3. We like to sleep at night. The kids don’t. The older ones often pile into their parent’s bed in the middle of the night. This is the very same bed that we will be sleeping in this weekend. It could be difficult to sleep with a foot in my stomach and an arm across my face or a squirmy 3 year old at my head.
  4. After 3 nights of interrupted sleep piled onto exhausting, stair running days, AGMA will not be somebody that anybody will want to be around for any length of time. Just sayin’…
  5. Most importantly, we like to be the “good guys” to the kids. We don’t want to have to discipline them or order them to pick up their toys or tell them they aren’t allowed to have that extra snack. You know – stuff parents normally do. But we might have to do all that this weekend. And that’s just no fun.

But we knew there would be assignments like this when we moved up to Chicago. We were aware of the risks.

We are the brave, the strong. We are grandparents. And we will serve despite the risks. That’s what grandparents do when called to action.

Even if we have a nasty case of bone spurs.

Please remember AGMA fondly just in case I don’t come out on the other side of the weekend…

17 thoughts on “The call to serve

  1. You have my concern. My daughter was very ill for the first three years of her daughter’s life. I lived in with them most of that time by necessity. They lived on the East Coast. Louisiana is my home. It was the best of times and the worst of times. The family dynamics were difficult, but every minute with my granddaughter was precious. We still adore each other but I have PTSD from some of the awful times. My daughter is well now.

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    • So glad to hear that your daughter is well, but oh my… Sounds as if it was a challenging time for you. I’m so sorry about your PTSD, but am very happy that you and your granddaughter are so close. Too bad you had so much bitter with the sweet! We did okay, but not sure how it would have gone had we had an extra day. I think the kids had a good time. Most of the time… 🙂

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    • Thanks! I had time to take my vitamins one time while we were there… Throwing that 3rd kid in the mix made the time we were alone with them non-stop! My niece we just visited has 3 boys, but they are 15, 13 & 8 and I could hang with them all day long. When they are young, it’s just so much more physically demanding. But it went well and we never had to call 911 so it’s all good!

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    • WAS pretty spritely Marty! With my back issues, I think my marathon days are behind me. 😦 But I’m hoping to maybe be able to do half’s when all this craziness settles down. So that’s to say I am pretty out of shape right now (although I didn’t do too bad running up and down stairs all weekend and picking up the baby about 40 times!) And we didn’t have to be the bad guys too much so we retain the jolly Nana & Bumpa title!

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    • If you look at the post I did today, we left town!! Ha ha ha!! And they were surprisingly well behaved most of the time, but the wheels fell off after their parents got home. I wonder why that happens? They were sort of out of control that evening (yes, we came back to their house later Sunday evening to watch a football game so the weekend couldn’t have been that bad!) but at least WE didn’t have to deal with it!

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  2. I’m sure you’re doing fine. I have three grands too and have been in your position. I find that we’re able to reach back to our parenting days and retrieve the “because I said so” attitude easily. I just hope you explained to Son#1 and DIL that you won’t be seeing them for at least 3 months upon their return. (One month for each kid.)

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    • Ha! We actually left town for a week a couple of days later! And I didn’t come out with “because I said so”, but I got that “mom” tone to my voice and the “mom” look in my eye again a few times. I hadn’t pulled that out for years and guess what? It still worked! 🙂

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  3. Luckily, with the help of the nanny you will not be outnumbered until the weekend *checks calendar* I mean today! Sending you lots of good vibes, and remember, this is the karma you need when it comes time for the Son and DIL to visit you in the home!!

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