Back when AGMA was a young 20 something, I worked for the C M Paula company in Cincinnati, Ohio.
The company name may not sound familiar to you, but I KNOW all of you of a certain age will be familiar with what they made back in the day.
They were called Whatchamacallits! Remember those?
I was a 23 year old newlywed and worked in the office doing some sort of administrative work. Along with some women my age, I worked with Rose and Vera who were in their 60’s at the time.
They were a hoot!
Rose was snarky and funny. I think AGMA now is a lot like Rose was back then!
And some 42 years later, I still remember that Vera’s husband was named Howard. I don’t think I ever met Howard, but Vera entertained us with stories of Howard’s exploits which were always entertaining.
They had been married for over 40 years and she still adored Howard. But Vera would say that she felt like she was born married and we all laughed.
AGMA’s not laughing anymore.
Hubs and I celebrated 42 years of marriage last month.
Hubs was never one to celebrate things like birthdays or anniversaries, so over the years AGMA has virtually eliminated any expectations of any type of celebration for either. To the point that now the thought of making a big deal out of a birthday or anniversary makes me uncomfortable.
Exchange cards and let the day pass with a minimum of fuss is sort of my mantra for surviving the day.
So for our 42nd, we exchanged cards, went out to dinner at one of our “regular” places and then came back home and watched a movie.
But we paid $5.99 to rent it…
I know – we’re a wild crew.
But AGMA can’t quit talking about this movie!
The name of it is Yesterday and it’s such a clever, original premise.
The story centers around a struggling singer/songwriter who is about to give up on his career. A 12 second blackout occurs all over the world. He’s on his bicycle when the blackout happens and gets hit by a bus.
When he gets home from the hospital, his friends give him a guitar because his guitar was obliterated in the crash. They ask him to sing a song so he starts singing Yesterday by The Beatles. His friends are mesmerized.
When he’s finished, they ask in wonder when he wrote that song. He’s confused and upset because he thinks they are playing a practical joke on him.
Slowly he comes to discover, in the world after the 12 second blip, The Beatles never existed. He is the only one who remembers them and their songs. Or is he?
And it just gets better from there. Lily James is his sort of love interest/best friend, and musician Ed Sheeran and comdeian Kate McKinnon are also in the movie.
It’s a highly enjoyable, light RomCom.
But it touched AGMA a bit deeper that a normal movie of this sort. It had distant echos of It’s A Wonderful Life. Sort of a “what would life be like if…”
An appropriate movie to celebrate a 46 year relationship and a 42 year marriage that has not always been smooth or easy.
I sometimes wonder what my life would be like had I turned around and walked out of that college cafeteria in 1973 as was my first impulse. The line was long and I was hungry (some things never change!) I turned around to leave, then thought about it, turned back and got in line. Hubs was in front of me in line. I thought he was cute. We struck up a conversation, when on a date that night and the rest is history.
What if AGMA had not turned back and just walked out? It was a huge state university so the odds of me coming across Hubs again would have been very remote.
Where would I be living? What would my career have been? Would I have gotten married? Would I have had more children or none at all? Would I be happy?
Something inside me told me to turn around and get in that cafeteria line. Was it fate? Divine guidance? AGMA won’t know in this life.
This past weekend, we visited TMWGITW (the most wonderful grandchildren in the world) for V’s 3rd birthday party. My younger son came up from Atlanta for the party as well. It was a wild and wonderful weekend! AGMA’s still exhausted…
As I recall watching and enjoying my children and grandchildren, I know, in hindsight, that this is the only life I would have ever wanted. Or been happy living. Despite the struggle. And that AGMA wouldn’t be who I am today (and am pretty content with) without the struggle.
Sweet and wise Vera, I know you are no long on this earthly plane, but where ever you are now, I get it!!
P.S. See Yesterday! It’s a really lovely movie!